Families that have navigated their way through international adoption know that it’s a complex process that takes time and involves multiple agencies — which can make it difficult to explain to children.
Award-winning author Julie Connor adopted her son from Colombia when he was 5 months old, and she used her own experiences to inform her new children’s book, The Baby with Three Families, Two Countries, and One Promise: An International Adoption Story. In it, Connor uses simple language and colorful illustrations by Saman Chinthaka Weerasinghe to explain the process of international adoption in a child-centric but realistic way.
“Most books about adoption are for parents; they’re not for children,” Connor said in a recent interview. “I wanted a book that showed the whole range of people involved in the adoption process: the biological mother, the adopting parents, the social workers, even the U.S. consul who has to give an internationally adopted baby a visa, the grandparents and even the family dog — I wanted to bring the whole cast of characters for a story in, so my book does that.”
Designed to be read by parents to a child adopted from a foreign country, the story traces the separate emotional journeys of the prospective adoptive parents from the United States and the biological mother from another country who makes the difficult decision to give up her baby for adoption.
“Experts urge that children be made aware from the earliest possible age that they are adopted, and this book sets out the complex story of an adoption in an easy-to-understand way,” Connor said.
Suitable for sharing with children ages 2-8, The Baby with Three Families, Two Countries, and One Promise introduces children to other important people in the adoption process, including foster parents, social service workers, U.S. consuls and grandparents.
In the final pages of the book, the adoptive parents tuck their baby in at night, telling him his story: he has three families, two countries and a promise to visit the country of his birth in the future.
Connor urges adoptive parents to make the story their own as they read it by substituting the names of people, countries and other details.
“Adjust the book to make it as different and as personal as your own adoption experience has been,” she said. “The author is smiling as you are adapting her book.”
Source: ASCOT Media